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Picture this: you’re standing in a long, slow-moving queue. People around you are disgruntled and complaining. You turn to talk with the person behind you and someone else jumps the queue in front of you. Is it okay to slap him or her – not to hurt them – just to give a clear message […]

Most parents will tell you that as soon as they announced their pregnancy, the advice started rolling in. Much of it might have been sensible and evidence-based, but it’s difficult to sort the myths from realities. Given so much of a new parent’s life is spent settling infants and working out their rapidly evolving sleep patterns, questions […]

All of us want to raise children who become self-disciplined — and happy — adults. The only question is how best to do that. Luckily, we know a lot of the answers. Research studies have been following children from babyhood to adulthood for decades, so we actually know much of what works to raise great […]

Most parents have some version of this question: how to “enforce limits” without punishment. So let’s dig deep on this. When you set a limit and your child doesn’t accept it, there’s a reason. He’s showing you as well as he can that something is so wrong inside him that he can’t cooperate with you, […]

Traditional parenting responds to the child’s misbehavior by imposing a “consequence” that causes emotional or physical pain, so that the child will choose to avoid that consequence in the future by choosing different behavior. But that assumes the child has the ability to regulate her emotions, and therefore her behavior. In fact, experts increasingly agree […]